Wednesday 23 May 2018

Punjabi Wedding | Best marriage sites in india

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 Punjabi's are simple yet fun-loving people who believe in expressing their emotion with gusto.
Similar to their nature, their weddings reflect their life philosophy. Punjabi weddings are colorful, loud, sometimes over the top, fun filled with lots of opportunities for singing and dancing one’s heart out. Punjabi weddings may be simple or lavish, but they ensure unlimited fun and celebration. A host of pre and post wedding rituals make a Punjabi wedding a lengthy and enjoyable affair. Although, Punjabi's do not miss an opportunity to make merry, their weddings display their propensity towards adhering to age old traditions, albeit with a conventional twist to them sometimes. From elaborate lehengas to the noisy baratis, the ‘dance till you drop’ Sangeet to the extremely friendly and warmly-welcoming host, a Punjabi wedding is akin to a true roller-coaster. Let’s take a look at the various wedding Rituals.



Roka and Thaka – When all aspect of the marriage looks satisfactory the bride’s family visits the groom’s place to offer the groom their blessing along with various gifts for the family like fruits, sweets, clothes, money also known as shagun etc. This custom is known as the Roka. The bride is generally not present at the Roka. The groom’s family reciprocates the gesture by visiting the bride’s family on a separate day carrying gifts. The return ceremony is known as Thaka. These two are generally low key affairs with only the close family attending it. The Roka ceremony marks the beginning of relationship between the two families and usually begins with a small puja called Ardaas.


Mangni / Sagai– This ceremony marks the official engagement between the couple. This is often a grand ceremony and precedes the wedding by some months at least. Family and friends gather from both the bride’s and the groom’s sides. The bride is fed boiled rice and milk by the groom's family. Amidst a celebratory mood the couple exchanges rings. The sagai ceremony makes the match an official one.



Shagun and Chunni Chadai – To mark the acceptance of the bride into the groom’s family, the Chunni
Ceremony is observed. A group of ladies arrive at the bride’s house on the morning of the Sagai or a
day before. They bring with them the outfit that the bride is to wear for the Sagai along with jewelry,
sweets, fruit, mawa etc. Special part of the gift is an intricately embellished head scarf or Chunni. The
Chunni is placed on the bride’s head and her face is covered with it like a veil. This ceremony is known as Chunni Chadana. She is then gifted jewelry like bangles or necklaces that are family heirlooms by her mother-in-law who helps her put them on. A tiny dot of henna is applied on her palm to mark the ceremony auspicious. These gifts to the bride are known as Shagun.



Sangeet – The Sangeet is a musical party generally arranged by the bride’s family. Traditionally, the
ladies of the family got together and sat surrounding the bride. Together they made merry by singing
folk wedding songs, teasing the bride, and dancing. The groom and a few of his family members were also invited to participate. Nowadays, the sangeet is a gala event when both the families get together to enjoy a fun-filled musical evening. Groups from both sides present dance performances that are often choreographed by experts. It’s basically a great opportunity for the families to get acquainted with each other.



Mehendi – Mehendi is an indispensable part of Punjabi wedding ceremony. The bride sits down on a
special stool and henna paste is applied to her hands and feet. The henna designs are intricate and
elaborate, and the groom’s initials are hidden amidst the various patterns. Upon drying gives a dark red color. It is believed the darker the color of the mehendi is, the more love the bride will receive at her in-laws. Previously, family members used to apply the henna paste but nowadays professional mehendi artists are hired. Other female members of the family also get henna applied to their hands. At the groom’s place the same mehendi ceremony is observed but at a smaller scale. Generally, a very simple henna design is applied to the groom’s palms. Traditional wedding songs are sung during the whole ceremony.



Ghodi Charna  – Traditionally, the Punjabi groom sets off for the wedding venue by riding a mare. The mare is decked up in gaudy decorations and tika is applied on its head. The mare is also fed chana dal (lentil) and water by the female relatives of the groom. The groom’s sister-in-law then applies surma to the groom’s eyes to ward off evil vibes. The groom them mounts the mare in a ceremonial manner. He is then accompanied by members of his family who sets off for the wedding venue along with him. The wedding procession is accompanied by a band that plays peppy musing and the members of the wedding procession dance to it.



Varmala– On entering the wedding hall, the groom is led towards the stage and he is made to stand
upon a small pedestal. At the designated muhurat the bride arrives at the stage and the couple exchange garlands. This is a fun-filled ceremony where there is competition among the two sides to lift either the bride or the groom higher so that the other cannot put the garland over his or her head.



Kanyadaan – During this age old Vedic ritual, the bride is given away by his parents to the groom. He
requests the groom through Vedic mantras to take good care of his daughter and the groom accepts the bride’s hand and promises her father that he will treat her with utmost love and respect throughout his life.



The wedding havan is lit which is the sacred fire. In Hindu custom, the fire deity is the foremost witness of a wedding. The groom is handed over a plate which has fourteen parallel lines drawn on a bed of flour with a flower. The lines symbolize fourteen vows of a marriage. The priest outlines these vows one by one through Vedic mantras; the groom repeats after him and erases one line with a flower bud.




Phere– Next, the couple gets up. Then ends of their dupattas are tied in a knot and they encircle the
sacred fire four times. For the first three times, the bride precedes the groom and for the final phera she has to follow the groom.


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Tuesday 1 May 2018

सफल शादी के टिप्स | Tips For Happy Married Life | best marriage bureau in jalandhar

                                   सफल शादी के टिप्स | Tips For Happy Married Life


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बात चाहे कितनी पुरानी हो, लेकिन आज भी पूरी तरह से सही है कि मियां बीवी गाड़ी के दो पहिये होते हैं और अगर इन दोनों के बीच संतुलन सही न हो, तो राहें मुश्किल हो जाती हैं।

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हर विवाहित व्यक्ति चाहता है कि उसका वैवाहिक जीवन सफल रहें। शादी के बंधन में बंधने से पहले लड़का-लड़की ढ़ेरों कसमें, वादें खाते हैं लेकिन समय के साथ-साथ ये वादे और कसमें कहीं धूमिल हो जाते हैं। सफल शादी के लिए सबसे महत्वपूर्ण पहलू है कि सफल शादी के राज को जाना जाए ।

सफल शादी की कुंजी कुछ और नहीं बल्कि एक-दूसरे का प्यार है। आइए जानें सफल शादी के 10 टिप्स।



    आमतौर पर लोग सफल शादी की कुंजी आर्थिक रूप से मजबूत होने को मानते है। और हां यह सही भी है। लेकिन ऐसा ज़रूरी नहीं। सफल शादी का राज वास्तव में आपस में एक-दूसरे को अधिक से अधिक समय देना है। पति-पत्नी यदि एक-दूसरे के साथ समय बिताएंगे तो ही वे अधिक से अधिक खुश रह पाएंगे।
                                       शारीरिक अंतरंगता, कैरियर में सफलता ही सफल शादी का राज नहीं बल्कि पति-पत्नी का आपस में एक-दूसरे के प्रति सौहार्दपूर्ण भाव रखना, एक-दूसरे को समझना और आपसी समस्याओं को  सुलझाना जरूरी है।

                                        कई बार किन्ही कारणों से पति-पत्नी एक-दूसरे के विपरीत होने और अलग विचार होने के कारण आपस में सौहार्द नहीं बना पाते। शादी के बंधन में बंधने से पहले ऐसी बातों पर उनका ध्यान नहीं जा पाता। ऐसे में जरूरी हो जाता है कि दोनों को एक-दूसरे की सोच और विचारों का सम्मान करते हुए एक दूसरे को समझना।
                                         एक-दूसरे के काम को महत्व देना और उसकी अहमियत समझ उसमें अपनी साझेदारी दिखाना भी सफल शादी की कुंजी है।  सिर्फ जिम्मेदारियां निभाने से शादी सफल नहीं होती बल्कि एक-दूसरे को बाहर ले जाना, कुछ सरप्राइज पार्टी देना, कोई ऐसा काम करना जिससे आपके साथी को खुशी हो, और ऐसा करके भी शादी को सफल बनाया जा सकता है।

                                         सफल शादी का सबसे महत्वपूर्ण पहलू है कि आप अपने साथी के साथ किसी तीसरे व्यक्ति के सामने दुर्व्यवहार न करें बल्कि अकेले में उसे उसकी गलती का अहसास कराएं।
                                        कई बार किसी एक साथी का जरूरत से ज्यादा घर से बाहर रहना या फिर हर समय काम पर फोकस करने से रिश्ते में दरार आ जाती हैं। ऐसे में रिश्ते को बचाये रखने के लिए जरूरी है कि कम से कम साल में दो-तीन बार चार-पांच दिन के लिए बाहर घूमने का प्रोग्राम बनाएं।

                                         शादी की सफलता का श्रेय दोस्ताना व्यवहार को भी जाता है। आपको अपने साथी के साथ दोस्ताना व्यवहार करना चाहिए । तभी आपका साथी अपने मन की बात बेझिझक आपसे कर पाएगा।
                                        शारीरिक सुख रिश्ते में घनिष्ठता लाता है। लेकिन यह जरूरी नहीं कि आप हर समय शारीरिक सुख के बारे में ही सोचते रहें। कई बार शारीरिक सुख से ज्यादा इमोशनल अटैचमेंट भी जरूरी हो जाता है।
                           पति-पत्नी को चाहिए कि वे एक-दूसरे की जरूरतों और उनके अहसास को महसूस कर उसे पूरा करने की कोशिश करें।


इन टिप्स के आधार पर आप अपने वैवाहिक जीवन को सफल बना सकते हैं लेकिन इसके बावजूद आपको कोई बड़ी समस्या घेर लेती है तो जरूरी है कि आप समय से पहले ही कांउसलिंग की मदद लें, जो कि आपके रिश्तों को बचाने में अहम भमिका निभाएगा।

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